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第33章 以爱之名 6（第1页）

第33章以爱之名（6）

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&obecausedbye.Upsetsarecausedbyyaingehisinyourlife，seletupset，enifsomehowyoueaceeherewouldbe.

Therewouldbebecauseupsetsarehappesarecausedbyfightiingeyoutakeawaythefightiidisappears.

Tolivetheexperienceoflove，aealifethatworks，youopthefightiing.Youdhaprocesscalledlettinggo.

&inggoistheiiohefearahemomegseemstoge.Withthefearagone，youseeyoursituationverydifferently.Youbeecreativeaionsthatyoueverhaveseenbefore.

&go，youheoppositeoffightiigoofyourdemaionsforhowlifeshouldbeahthewaylifeis.

Findwhaty.Thefullpermissiohere，Ifyouhaveafearoflosiionship，bewilli.Ifythewaysomeohepersonfullpermissio>

Bewillingf.Setyourselffreeiakewhateverayouohaveyourlifebegreat.

Keepinmiinggoisastateofmindandhasnothingtodowithyouras.Lettinggoistheprocessthatremovesthefearasoyouseewhatayouake.

I，youbewillingtolosesomeoinyouras，dyouakesurethepersonfeelssolovedthatheorshewouldoleave.

Tomakelettinggoalittleeasier，thereareseveralstepsyoutake.Thefirstistrusting.Trustthathappens，youwillbeokay.Whenyouknowthatyouwillbeokay，lettinggobeesrelativelyeasy.

Trustingisalsotellih.Youreallywillbeokayhappens.Lifeiswhe.Sandtrust.Trustthathappens，youwillbeokay.

Thesedstepintheprocessoflettinggoistobewillingtofeelyourhurt.Bewillihehurtandthefeeliokaythatyourcesreactivate.Bewillihehurtofbei“goodenough”

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Theavoidahishurtiswhatmakesyouresist.Onceytofeelthishurt，thedisappears.Youletgo.

Forexample，RoberthadafearoflosinghiswifeJan.Tomakesureshedidn’tleave，hehungontoher.Hishangingonthenpushedherfurtherandfurtheraway.RobertwasafraidoflosingJanbecauseifshelefthim，thiswouldreactivateallhishurtoffeelingn.Toavoidthishurt，hehungon.

Oncehewaswillingtofeelhishurt，thelossofJaobeatreat.Henoloohangonandbecamewillioleave.Themomentthishappenedhegedthewayherelatedtoher.Insteadofneediedtreasurihesolovedaobeherself，shedidn’twanttoleave.

Thisisehemoreyouareabletoletgoandflowwithlife，themorelifetakescareofitself.Youmaynotalant，butyoualwaysbefreeinside.Yourestorebothyourpeaindaiveness.Youcreatealifethatworks.

爱的体验是一种心理状态。

沉浸在爱里，你会感到幸福快乐、生气勃勃、自由自在。

自我感觉良好，生活就会非常美好。

当你把这种爱的体验带进生活时，生活就会变得轻松自如，充满喜悦。

爱的反面是恐惧和不安。

处于这种状态时，你会深深地陷入绝望，失去创造力和洞察事物的能力；你的视野会变得狭窄，处世方式也会受到影响，这些使你的处境变得更糟。

不论你是沉浸在爱里还是陷入到烦恼中，一切并非取决于你的环境，而在于你面对环境的态度。

有一个很好的解决方法：正视你的烦恼。

烦恼看似因某些事而起，其实不然，它源于你对既成事实的对抗和抵触。